One-to-one coaching
Private work, real change.
Coaching for men who are ready to stop white-knuckling it. We work with your body, your breath and your mind together, at your pace, with practices you take home.
What we work on
Whatever is actually going on.
Men come to me with all sorts of things, and often several at once. A few of the common threads:
- Performance anxiety and confidence
- Erections, timing and orgasm
- Porn and compulsive habits
- Low desire, numbness, disconnection
- Stress, overwhelm, and a nervous system stuck on high
- Shame and old stories about sex and masculinity
- Intimacy, communication and consent
- Wanting more pleasure, presence and aliveness
We draw from all three treasures (somatic sex education, Qi Gong and hypnosis) and use whatever serves you best.
How it works
Four simple steps.
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Free intro call
Up to 30 minutes by phone or video, booked online at a time that suits you. You tell me what's going on, I ask a few questions, and we both get honest about whether this is a fit. If I'm not the right person, I'll point you to someone who is.
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First session
We map where you are and where you want to be, and you get your first practices. A short intake form beforehand means we spend the session on you, not paperwork.
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Ongoing work
Single sessions or a series. Most men get the most from a run of sessions a week or two apart, so new habits have time to take root between them.
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Integration
Between sessions you practise. You can email me with insights and questions along the way, and when we finish we make a clear plan so the work keeps going without me.
Inside a session
The shape of a two-hour session.
To give your nervous system a new reference point, we go on a bit of a journey. A full session usually follows this arc:
- Check-in and intention setting
- A transition practice of breath or movement to drop out of the head
- Waking the body and nervous system up
- The core work: coaching, trance, Qi Gong or embodiment practice
- Expression: saying what is true and what you want
- Savouring and settling, so the nervous system integrates
- Debrief, and your practice for the week
Every session is shaped by your goals, and nothing happens without your clear consent.
Questions
Good things to ask.
Who is this for?
Men, of any age, background or orientation, who want a better relationship with their body, their sexuality and their own nervous system. Some come with a specific problem. Some just know there's more aliveness available than they're living.
Is this therapy?
No. It's coaching and education. I'm not a doctor or a psychotherapist, and I don't diagnose or treat medical or mental health conditions. Coaching works well alongside therapy and medical care, and I'll always encourage you to keep those supports in place.
In person or online?
Both. In-person sessions are in my private home studio in Nanaimo, and I'll send the address when your session is confirmed. Online sessions work well for most of the work, including the hypnosis and Qi Gong.
Do you offer hands-on bodywork?
No. My work is coaching and education: conversation, breath, movement, trance and guided practice. Any body-based practice is something you do yourself, guided by me.
Is it confidential?
Completely. What you share stays between us. I hold professional standards of confidentiality, and I've spent my whole career being trusted with people's most private moments.
How long are sessions?
One hour, or two. An hour goes quickly. Two hours lets us complete the full arc and really sink in, which is why I usually recommend it.
What does it cost?
Rates and package options are shared on your free intro call, so you can choose what fits once you know it's the right work for you.
Start with a conversation.
A free, no-pressure call of up to 30 minutes. You tell me what's going on, I tell you honestly whether I can help, and we both get a feel for working together.